Tell your daughters….the devil always offers a counterfeit version.

The devil always offers a counterfeit version.

Last month, I sat with my girls Bible study and talked to them about sexual purity.  Many of them want a boyfriend.  They want to know they are known, chosen, pursued, fought for and loved.  They want to believe they are worth dying for.

Many mistakenly believe having a boyfriend means they are desirable.  It means they are chosen, pursued, known and loved.  It is a subtle deception.

I’m concerned one of the roots of sexually immorality lies within these desires.  Some mistakenly believe dating will satisfy their desire to be completely known, chosen and loved.  Some naively look to sexual relationships to validate their value.  Are they worthy of love?

I get it.

These girls believe a “boyfriend” will satisfy the ache in their hearts.  But the ache in their hearts won’t be satisfied by just any man, only the God-Man.

God created us with this desire, because He alone satisfies this desire.

God Says…

I am known.  (Ps. 137)

I am chosen. ...(John 15:16).

He is jealous for my love. (Deut. 4:24)  (Deut. 32:16)  

He fights for me.  (Deut. 3:22)

He pursues me.  (Matt. 18:12)

He loves me.   (Jeremiah 31:3)

My whole life, I waited for a man to pursue me, fight for me, love me, die for me.  What I came to realize was, One already had.

Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant looking for fine pearls.  When he found one of great value, he went away and sold everything he had and bought it. (Matt. 13:45)

Jesus is the merchant and I am the pearl.  When Jesus found me, He left heaven above and sold everything He had.  He went to the cross and bought me back.

I am worth dying for.

God knew this desire for Him, might become misconstrued.  So, He gave us a warning.

…do not throw your pearls to pigs.  If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces. (Matt. 7:6)

This is what we need to teach our daughters.  Do not let a 16 year old boy deterime if you are worthy to be loved.  Do not hand him your heart, worth, self-esteem, lest he trample them under his feet.  He doesn’t have the wisdom, matruity or godliness to safe-gaurd the pearl he has been given.  Don’t let any man decide if you are worth pursuing, loving or fighting for.

Men (people of this world apart from God) cannot grasp our value.  They are not capable of knowing, pursuing, fighting for us and loving us like God can.

God alone is the satisfier of our hearts.

Thankfully godly marriages will mirror this great love.  It will demonstrate many of these qualities because it is God’s picture to the world of Christ and the church.  But our imperfect love will never satisfy the deep-seated cravings for the perfect love of our Savior.

I am praying God will help us better prepare these girls and boys for dating.  Praying God alone will satisfy their cravings to be loved, valued and pursued. And when these boys and girls enter into a dating relationship, they will do so as a complete person.  Their cup will be full from Christ.  They will enter into a relationship ready to give out of the overflow of their heart/lives.  Praying they will not enter in with cups half-full looking for someone else to determine their value and worth.

Praying they won’t pursue the counterfeit version.